The Secret to Happiness

desimones.jpgHave you every been asked: What kind of boyfriend do you want? I bet you have. For some reason that’s one of the first questions that I ask my single friends when they complain that they can’t get any boyfriend. It might seem like a very personal question but the answer can tell a lot about the person and most of the time they can’t answer me so it means they don’t know what they are looking for and of course that’s why they can’t find it.I was watching the movie “The Secret” one of my favorites ever and I got very shocked to realize that in order to apply the laws of attraction in our life, we should do exactly what I have been advising to my friends and applying to myself: a clear image of the person we are looking for, of the man we dream about. In the movie and on many other documentaries and articles I’ve read they all explain about how the visual image of the man you want into your life will help you attract him to you. The also think that we should show gratitude and happiness in advance to create the right mood to attract positive into our life.I can’t say I practice anything of that all day or every day, but now I try to be positive even when bad things are happening around me and think that I can achieve everything I set my mind to. I wish all of you can feel the same way.One of my very good friends was diagnosed with a brain tumor a few months ago, but with all the positive energy we projected, everything turned out just fine, she got an operation where they extirpated the tumor that fortunately was benign and didn’t cause any trauma. Now she’s almost recovered and I can’t stop thanking for that.I used some of the advices techniques they explain in the movie and I can say that my life has changed, I obviously haven’t gotten everything I asked for but at least I have a very hopeful mood, I feel that everything will turn out very good in my life and just the happiness of that thought make me smile.I actually made a list of the kind of boyfriend I want to date in the future when I’m ready. I’m not afraid of being very specific because I know I can find that man and when I finally find him I want to show him my list and prove once again that we can achieve everything we want. My list is very long and I’m not planning on sharing it completely, but I found that some of the qualities I look in man are the same that almost every woman look on a man. If you are single, I want to encourage you to make your own list and to help us add some more qualities that might be very important on a man.Here are some of the most common qualities a woman look on a man1. hardworking: I’m not talking about the “employee of the month” kind of man, but someone who works hard for what he wants, who wants a lazy boyfriend?2. clean: personal hygiene is more important to me that looks, I hope is the same with you. I personally want a man who is clean, not only with his body but with everything that surrounds him. Some men think that men’s room are supposed to be dirty and messy because they are “men”. I don’t think that’s true, I’m not asking for a designer’s decoration, but for clean cloths and bedsheets, not dirty cloths all over the place and never any food older than a month on the fridge.3. romantic: This can go without explanation. We all want a man who can take us to a candle light dinner, who gives us flowers on special occasions (I would go for flowers every day but let’s not get carried away), who writes love letters to us and specially who can say “I love you”.4. nice: This can seem very general but I have a clear image of a nice man very clear, to me a nice man is the one that treat us like ladies, who uses sweet phrases when talking to me, who opens our taxi door, who spoils me and specially who buys me little things to make me smile.5. funny: Not a clown, but someone that can make us smile when we are sad or bored. I once heard a phrase in a movie that really touched my heart: “Sometimes we just want to stay with the person that makes us smile”6. responsible: We are definitely looking for a man who takes us seriously, who is responsible in the relationship, who takes responsibility of his actions.I hope this list help you get started on your own private list and I’d love some more ideas to add to my list.AddThis Social Bookmark Button


5 thoughts on “The Secret to Happiness

  1. The Secret is the latest and by far the worst example of a HIGHLY profitable trend where self-help gurus with fabricated new age titles and little relevant education, credentials or legitimate expertise brainwash us into believing that they know what is best for us, our marriages and our families.

    Often their only contribution to society is introducing some exotic sounding, new age philosophy. However, they often cleverly form an incestuous group of like-minded “experts” who cross-promote each other by swearing their success is due to following the beliefs of another member of their “cult!” All the while, they ply the airwaves jockeying for an ever-larger audience by appearing in the national media to garner third-party endorsements.

    The Self-Help Movement has become the Self-Destruct Movement by diminishing or destroying our critical thinking skills to choose and evolve on our own. We have given up the freedom to build healthy lives, marriages and families based on our unique history and life experience. Instead many victims, blinded to the value of their own life experiences, are attracted to the latest secret in self-help, in an attempt to find out what they should think, feel and how they should act… this is the definition of a cult.

    The solution is a return to our (common) senses! The best way out of this learned “self-helplessness” is to go cold turkey. Stop following ALL self-help gurus now. Begin, instead, to reclaim your natural, God-given ability to think for yourself. The common sense that was once readily available to all of us is still there free of charge and waiting to be applied to just about any challenge we might face in life… all you have to do is use it.

    Please, let’s all work together to stop the flock of “sheepeople” who blindly move from one UNPROVEN concept to the next, looking for the answers to life’s challenges that you already possess and that is the OBVIOUS!

  2. I wish you much luck on attracting the type of relationship you want. It is good that you have made your intention public, it often helps accelerate results. The only downside can be doubters who try to pollute your creation with skepticism. I also find it helps to keep focused, to try and not to attract more than two or three things at a time. And keep your mind open and let the universe bring you things in it’s own way, you will attract great things, although not always in the way you imagined. But I have a feeling you know all this already, although it helps me to remind even myself of these things.

  3. I have to say that this type of positive thinking and affirmation really can make a difference in finding that one right person, man or woman for yourself. Ever since I was younger and always had that dream most young girls have of meeting the perfect guy I would wish almost every night on that one star I would see in the sky and mention all the attributes I wanted in that perfect guy I would meet one day. I got a bit carried away with this effort being a product of a horrible marriage that lasted way too long if you ask me. So Mr. Right was going to to have to fit into my mold, or darn close to it. Seeing how things were with my parents I knew what I did not want. Fast forward, at the age of 26 I met that man I wished for every night and have been with him for 17 years now….I have to say I am so happy that all that positive affirmation stuff came through for me. I have never been so happy in my life. I truly feel blessed.

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